"Oh No She Didn't!" Vol 2

Back Down from a Smack Down

• Oh, yes she did!  A couple of weeks ago my nephew’s wife Melinda* invited me to attend a luncheon that was thrown by her exclusive women’s club.  The club’s members are intelligent, well-healed, socially savvy professional women.  So I was shocked when Melinda was accosted by a club member who, with slit eyes and some sort of fur animal perched on her head, barked orders at Melinda in a venomous, condescending tone.  Melinda, who knew that the directions Miss Fur Head was giving were incorrect, remained calm and carried on with her tasks.  Watching all of this in disbelief, I wanted to smack the fur nest off of Miss Fur Head’s head and send this charm school drop-out back to school for a much needed refresher course in tact and class.  The attack was unprovoked and unexpected--Melinda regularly avoids Fur Head and her negative energy.
• After a few moments of envisioning a straight-up smack down moment, I thought of three potential non-violent reactions to Fur Head’s inane antics:  1) Ignore the bully—karma will take care of the rest; 2) Confront the bully—give her a taste of her own venom; 3) Expose the bully—share stories of the unpleasant Fur Head experience with others, maybe she will recognize her nasty behavior and stop harassing others.

Intelligent readers, what would you have done/said if someone had done this to you?

“Back Down from a Smack Down” wants to know……

*Fictitious name

Comments

[Stand Down]

Do nothing. You friend is an adult and ought to be able to take care of themself, as she did. You now have intelligence on Fur Head for future interactions.

[Slow Down Don't Throw Down]

Wow! While resisting the urge to release fur head's animal to the wild, I would have thanked her (in a firm voice) for her input, and let her know if I needed her assistance.

[Keepin' it real]

What I want to know is when Fur Head's friends (assuming she has any)witnessed her rude behavior, did they let her know that her keepin' it real went wrong?

[Frankie Say Relax!]

Poor Fur Head. Her life is so out of control that she has to control others. I pity the fool!

[Jesse]

Why can't we all just get along?

[Not buying into it]

The best revenge is not to let them see you sweat! That infuriates them more and you come out smelling like a rose.

[nuaditu2]

Well once upon a time I would have turned her out where she showed out. But the mature and older me would have simply given her that "eat dookie and die" look while I thanked her for her advice. I would have then contiuned on with what I was doing.

[Gwen]

I agree with your friend's action of non action so to speak. I would however pull Miss Fur Head aside later and in private, remind her of our common goal and unnecessary rudeness. Most people tone the drama "way" down one on one situations.